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Comfort and Joy: Articulate Your Holiday Values

Holiday time! How does that phrase make you feel? Excited   Blue   Exhausted   Anticipatory   Full of Dread   Ambivalent Take five minutes to stop and think: What do you WANT to do? What really matters to you as you celebrate? Grab a pen and paper and answer these questions. Be honest. With all the expectations of others, […]

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Angry? Get Physical! (Non-violent ways to express anger)

A stack of spiral notebooks sits on my night stand. The pages hold my ideas, reflections, and feelings including my anger. I’m a huge believer in writing my way through anger.  Rage on the page is a great starting place. But writing is not the only way to process anger. There are times I need to […]

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This is not a simple matter: to know you feel angry

The taboos against … feeling and expressing anger are so powerful that even knowing when we are angry is not a simple matter.” ~ Harriet Lerner Feeling and expressing anger is part of being human. But when someone says, “You’re angry!” it’s as if they’ve said, “You have leprosy!” We get defensive. We feel dismissed. We […]

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A Vocabulary of Feelings

This post is taken from our upcoming book The Small Guide to Life’s Big Changes. We recognize the importance of feelings and have dedicated several chapters to the value of feelings in our transition process and recovery. The grief and loss that come with BIG Change are difficult to discuss. These raw feelings are painful and […]

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Recognize Your Feelings

Your body responds to illness and injury with pain. The heart responds to grief and loss with strong emotion. Healthy people do not ignore physical pain. In the same way, people who transition well do not ignore emotional pain. We are a society attuned to treating physical symptoms, but emotional problems get ignored and turn into […]

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The Art of Telling — Comm 101

In the midst of a BIG Change—or if you’re about to make a BIG Change, there are many questions for which you don’t have the answers. And that’s OK. The real challenge comes when others in your life expect answers that you don’t have. So the dilemma is with whom to share, what to share, and […]

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It’s your life, but only if you make it so.

It’s your life, but only if you make it so. The standards by which you live must be your own standards, your own values, your own convictions in regard to what is right and wrong, what is true and false, what is important and what is trivial.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt Last week I spoke to […]

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How & Why We Started

Your life has just been turned upside down. You wonder: What do I do now? My life is just too much! Help. OR you’re thinking I feel lost. I am so scared! We know the feeling. We’ve lived it and continue to today! We met in March of 2013 at one-day symposium called Moving Matters. The […]

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I choose a community of patience, support, and grace.

A new job and new possibilities awaited us. As Ken and I packed up our home to move from South Bend, Indiana to Riverside, California I had an inkling of what I’d lose in the move. But my wise friend Mary (hi, Mary!) knew the transition would be tough. When we said our good-byes she assured me, […]

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All of My Feelings are Valid

Feelings often fall into one of two categories: positive or negative. Western culture values the positive; let’s feel happy, confident, determined, loved. But we’re not comfortable with the negative: sad, angry, confused, depressed. Few of us are taught how to spend time with so-called negative feelings. We are not taught how to get comfortable with feeling […]

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